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Kindness and what it means.

This last quarter of the year, which of course encompasses the lead up to Christmas, can often be a blur of activity and rushing around. We often don’t have a moment to stop and think about ourselves and what we might need. Or, maybe we do but get caught up in being busy (hello, that’ll be me then!)

This was me last year, busy at an event when I was actually totally spent. We had recently suffered a devastating family loss and I wanted to be at home. But I had to work – this is my job!

Sometimes this situation is unavoidable but other times there is a choice to be made. This is where kindness comes in. We often think of kindness as helping other people, passing a lovely compliment, being generous. All this is spot on and totally true – we will read more on this further down this blog I’m sure. 

But what if we extended this kindness to ourselves? What if we told ourselves that we were doing the best we can and that we are proud of ourselves? How would that feel? How about being generous with the time we allowed for resting, relaxing and nurturing our minds and bodies?

I don’t know about you, but my shoulders have just eased down about half an inch!

Let’s make a pact, you and me. Let’s decide that we will think of ourselves in the third person at least twice a day. Let’s ask what we need, what would benefit us the most, what would be the kindest course of action in that moment. I think we will soon learn that the fastest way to get all those silly lists down to zero is to feel the best we can and be rested and well. And being kind to ourselves means we will get there in the best possible way. 

Here’s to a wonderful, restful, kind and happy December. 

Now – onto this edition’s contributors! What a gorgeous bunch they are too!

Please welcome Carol! Owner founder of One of a Kind Club, an amazing feel good jewellery brand and super wonderful lady! Every time I see Carol she is smiling and spreading happiness – such a fantastic energy to have.

Embracing the Power of Kindness and Positivity: A One of a Kind Club Journey

In a world that often seems to be moving faster than the speed of light, where negativity and cynicism can easily cloud our judgment, it’s crucial to remember the unparalleled importance of kindness and positivity. At the heart of feel-good jewellery brand One of a Kind Club is kindness. We believe in the transformative power of these simple yet profound virtues. They are not just words; they are a way of life, a guiding light that leads us through the darkest of times and amplifies our joy in the brightest.

1. Kindness Creates Ripple Effects: Kindness is like a stone thrown into a pond, creating ripples that spread far and wide. When we extend a helping hand, offer a warm smile, or lend a listening ear, we inspire others to do the same. In a world desperate for compassion, each act of kindness becomes a building block for a more harmonious society.

2. Positivity Fuels Resilience: Positivity is the fuel that drives resilience. It’s the unwavering belief that even in the face of adversity, there is a silver lining. When we approach challenges with a positive mindset, we find creative solutions, learn invaluable lessons, and emerge stronger than ever before. Positivity is not just an attitude; it’s a superpower that turns obstacles into opportunities.

3. Kindness and Positivity Enhance Well-Being: Scientific studies have shown that acts of kindness release endorphins, the brain’s natural feel-good chemicals. When we are kind, our stress levels decrease, our sense of self-worth increases, and our overall well-being receives a significant boost. Similarly, maintaining a positive outlook on life has been linked to lower stress levels, improved cardiovascular health, and a longer lifespan. Kindness and positivity are not just good for the soul; they are the elixirs of life.

4. Building Meaningful Connections: Kindness and positivity are the cornerstones of meaningful relationships. When we approach others with kindness, we build trust and establish deep connections that enrich our lives. Positive interactions create a nurturing environment where friendships blossom, families thrive, and communities unite. In a world where divisions often dominate headlines, kindness and positivity have the power to bridge gaps and foster understanding among diverse groups.

5. Spreading Joy and Gratitude: Kindness and positivity are contagious. When we experience the joy of giving, we inspire others to do the same. Acts of kindness create a cycle of positivity, where gratitude flows freely, and people find happiness in both giving and receiving. This cycle of joy is what makes the world a brighter, more beautiful place for us all.

At One of a Kind Club, we celebrate kindness and positivity through jewellery and not just as ideals, but as the very fabric of our existence. We believe that by embracing these virtu

es, we can create a world where empathy triumphs over apathy, where smiles are more abundant than frowns, and where every heart beats to the rhythm of love and understanding.

So, let’s embark on this journey together – a journey where kindness and positivity light our path, where every day is an opportunity to make a difference, and where, in our unique and individual ways, we become the change we wish to see in the world. Join us, and together, let’s paint the world with the vibrant hues of kindness and positivity, making it a more positive place – starting with jewellery and being kind.

www.oneofakindclub.com

Instagram – @oneofakindclub

Please welcome back Jack! He is, of course, Yoga with LaRue – maker of wonderful Instagram videos and amazing yoga teacher and retreat leader! Be sure to check out his Instagram account, find it at the end of his blog piece.

Sam asked me to come back & write another blog post! Isn’t that kind? See what I did there?

I almost messaged her to say I wanted to sit this blog post out as I hadn’t had any immediate ideas as I had with the last blog post on ‘Overwhelm’. Check it out if you missed it! However, as I opened Instagram to message her, I had an idea hit me in the face, and here we are.

Buckle up friends because we’re going to get deep here. As mentioned in my previous article, I used to work full-time in property as a trainee commercial surveyor. I alluded to the fact that it had an immense mental impact on me, ruining my shine and dampening my spirit. (Can you tell I’m a yoga teacher?). One thing I have taken from this experience, as well as much tougher skin, is that in life we should just be kind. Even when we’re angry and pissed off you can still say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Granted, the other person may take your curt ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ as a micro-aggression, but I think it is still best to remember our Ps and Qs. The old adage of ‘manners cost you nothing’ really is true. And, if we’re being completely honest, our mum’s saying of ‘kill them with kindness’ is actually the old fish wife, spot-on-nonsense that we need to live by.

In my previous job, I can remember feeling scared and anxious every time I sent an email. My boss insisted on reading every email first and, still to this day, I can remember the anxiety creeping into my body when I sent them the email and awaited to hear where I’d gone wrong. To clarify, there was always a communication problem between us, so it wasn’t always my fault, thank you. However, nonetheless, I believe you should educate, advise, and help someone in times of fault and miscommunication, not publicly chastise and shame.

During my time at this job, I found my meditation practice became my go-to support. My crutch if you will. I’d meditate before leaving home. I’d meditate in my car before going into the office. And then I’d sneak off to the toilets to meditate a couple of times a day, just to get me through. I realise now in hindsight that this is rather extreme; however, it is certainly indicative of how I was really feeling during this time. Awful.

I don’t wish to trigger anyone here, so here is your covid-19 warning. But, for me, covid and the subsequent lockdowns was eye opening to say the least. Suddenly I was sat at home with thoughts that I hadn’t been acknowledging. I don’t think I even knew I was smothering them. However, the covid lockdowns allowed me time to sit with myself and notice the parts of me I hadn’t accepted and didn’t like. It was a gruelling time of mental and personal exploration – a time of painful yet necessary growth. Fast forward to my last job and I came to realise that I was not living how I wanted to. During the covid lockdowns I concluded that I wanted to do more with my free time; live more, be myself more, be happier, freer. Suddenly I’m in a job I despise, scared to send an email. Can you see the disconnect here?! I had to be kind to myself and listen to how I felt. Therefore, I quit my job, handing in my 7-day notice and then became a yoga teacher.

I never used to be a big believer in ‘self-care’ or ‘mantras’, but I am all in now. I believe that my purpose is not just to guide amazing people through a yoga class, but it is to serve. Now, I can hear you rolling your eyes. Stop that. I was like you once too. My eyes now only half roll. My purpose is to serve. 100%. Students come to my yoga classes, I hope, because they like me, and they like the flows I create. I’d also like to think they come because I help them mentally relax, find calm, slow down. I believe I serve people with loving kindness.

Now, I know I badger on about gratitude and positive affirmations all the time, but I see them as tools for self-kindness as well as self-care. See the 5 positive affirmations below based around kindness:

  1. I treat myself with the love and kindness I deserve in everything I do.
  2. I do not allow myself to be treated with anything less than I deserve.
  3. There is an abundance of love and kindness in my life.
  4. I honour who I truly am.
  5. I attract respectful and loving relationships into my life.

Repeat the above to yourselves 5 times, yes 5 times, now. You can do so in your head or say it out loud if you’re alone or not easily embarrassed. The more I research positive affirmations, the more I believe we should be teaching this in schools. But this is a story for another day and another blog post. Additionally, as hard as it is to feel kindness towards people who have done you wrong, can you do so now? Even if you can only accept that they made a good cup of tea. That’s okay. You can let the hurt go – with professional help if required, be safe – and still accept that they had 1 or 2 brief glimpses of kindness. Do YOURSELF the kindness of LETTING IT GO.

Remember you can access meditations and yoga classes on my website: https://sudor.fit/gym/La-Rue-Yoga. Because I’m kind, I’m extending the 40% off discount on monthly or annual memberships with the code – LARUEYOGA40. Excited to practice with you soon.

Instagram – @yogawithlarue

Please welcome KT! This wonderful human is pictured in the dictionary next to the word ‘kindness’ so just had to be featured in this edition! She is my hairdresser, my friend and just bloomin’ gorgeous! KT has long been a campaigner for mental health awareness and has created an amazing space in her Hygge Hair Hub that is accessible to everyone – from quiet appointments, having the mirror covered, and offering yummy vegan treats to clients. She’s incredible! 

KT - KindnessKindness. What does that mean to you? How can we use this action word to impact the our lives & those around us. Nelson Henderson once said “The true meaning of life is to plant trees under who’s shade you do not expect to sit”, linking our entire human existence to that one action word. Kindness.

To be kind is to be thoughtful, to be compassionate, generous or helpful, something we can extend to others & also to ourselves. Its a currency free trait that we can find in abundance when we look for it.

Shifting your focus to find kindness in your everyday life can dramatically alter your perspective of your reality, taking a moment to find 3-5 kindness gestures around you; from watching someone pick up & return a wallet on the street to another who unknowingly dropped it. Watching someone entertain a small child at the checkout of a supermarket whilst the stressed parent puts through the shopping. The strong by-passer who offers to lift a heavy suitcase up stairs. This can lift your mood & offer you a reassurance of compassion in the world around you.

For those days where you struggle to find the kindness in others, the only advice I can offer you, is be the kindness. Try to complete the 3-5 gestures yourself, for those who are unkind need it the most. Hurt people often hurt people, if we can find understanding and compassion in this statement we can recognise abrupt or unkind words often have no direct reflection on ourselves but the person projecting them.

Kindness towards ourselves is one of the most challenging tasks of all. Listening to our bodies, putting up and withholding healthy boundaries and positive self-talk are just a few ways in which we could all be more kind to ourselves. We are often the most critical towards ourselves and disregard thoughts or emotions that arise as a result of past events or low self-esteem.

When you are doing an activity you love or spending time with someone who brings you joy, take a moment to evaluate where you feel that in your body. Is your chest feeling full and expanding with joy? Does your body feel light? Is your brain buzzing and energetic? Paying attention to the response of your body will allow you to evaluate what feels right for you and also what doesn’t. Putting in healthy boundaries for yourself for those events or people that bring a negative impact onto your body is an act of self-kindness. You cannot control those around you, or even the events that happen around you but you can choose how you respond.

Jay Shetty once said “Accepting who you are, today, in this moment, is the kindest thing you can do for your past future and present self”. How you talk to yourself and about yourself matters. Listen carefully to the words you tell yourself about who you are and the beliefs you hold about you as a person. Take a moment to consider if you would be okay to voice this belief towards another person. You deserve love, compassion and acceptance. Just as much as the people around you, your loved ones. Talk back to that negative voice, challenge it!

Hygge Hair HubQuestion the validity of the statement made, is it a true self belief, a passed on belief or is it out of habit?
When you feel down, sad or depressed, if focusing on ways to make yourself feel better isn’t working, focus on lifting others up, celebrating them and bringing them joy, feeling the emotion on behalf of them. It’s a sure fire way to ensure that your own individual world is full of joy, positivity and kindness, surrounded with people who feel supported and celebrated.

Kindness is everywhere – if this statement feels untrue in a world with loss, pain and traumatic events happening, look for the helpers. The people clearing up after the aftermath. The people who are cooking for those in need. The ones who open their homes. The ones raising money. The ones opening arms with support.  The ones giving up time and resources for strangers. Look for them.

https://www.ktjaynehair.co.uk

Instagram – @ktjaynehair

Please welcome Emma! This gorgeous human and I met at a craft fair last year and have kept in touch ever since. I have witnessed this wonderful lady sky rocket in confidence and re-brand into something amazing – Spirit Owl is her creative baby and is definitely worth a look for her original, retro and eye-catching designs.

What is kindness? I once read a quote that stuck with me – “kindness doesn’t cost a thing, yet it’s the richest gift you can give”. 

I fully believe kindness is in all of us, it’s a part of human nature, although some may have to look a little bit harder to find it. This was my downfall for many years because I like to see the potential in people and believe that not everybody is completely evil or wrong all the time. I lost faith in humanity, I felt like no one was kind anymore and everyone in the world was looking to gain something for themselves and not support those around them. I suppose you could say I became a bit bitter.

Since the pandemic and a few life changes, I’ve been on a bit of a journey of self-discovery and I have found the importance of kindness. Over the years, we go through break ups, get hurt and start to feel like – why should I do that, why should I be kind to that person? Or on the flip side – I can’t say no to that person because they are always so kind to me. But if we continue with that mindset, we will become ill. I’ve learnt a really important lesson about staying true to who you are and what you can give, regardless of how others treat you. In order to be at peace, you need to be kind to yourself first. In doing so, it’ll make you a much better person. When you look within and work on your responses to the outside world, it changes how you behave. Being kind to yourself and setting necessary boundaries allows you to be a better person that has far more to offer.

I worry that in today’s society we are so fixated on being the best, and with the help of social media, we are all working to unrealistic targets. I often find when it comes to self-care and being kind to yourself many believe it is selfish, but, if you think about the oxygen mask analogy on a plane, in order to help others you have to secure your own mask first.

In my opinion, the richest gift of kindness should not just be reserved for others, an equal amount should be shared with yourself……Now, get that kettle on and except when your day has been a rough one, you can cancel your plans and run a hot bath, and still be a good, kind person. Trust me, your nervous system will thank you for it.

Spread so much kindness to yourself that you can’t contain it all and it seeps out, everywhere you go, brightening the days of strangers!

www.spiritowl.co.uk

Instagram – @spirit.owl.emma

Please welcome back Andy! This lovely chap is my husband and always has some words of wisdom to add to these blogs. He is kind, compassionate and pretty darn awesome – he helps people on a daily basis, including me! 

I’ve been listening to the news quite a bit recently and what is so striking is that there seems to be a complete absence of kindness in the world. When you listen to political leaders or people in positions of power and influence you never seem to hear them talk about being kind and yet it seems to me that the world has never been more in need of kindness than right now. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to hear about government policy being based around kindness as a foundational principle? What if organisations adopted kindness as a core value? What would the world be like if we built kindness into the curriculum of every school? And how about being able to do a degree in kindness? Wow! Now that would get me excited!

Sadly there seems little chance of any of that happening. But it never hurts to dream and I hold on to the belief that at our core, the vast majority of human beings are kind, caring and generous people who don’t want to suffer and who certainly don’t want other people to suffer.

I think there’s much to do because I for one have grown up in a society that has elevated the individual way above the idea of community. Communities that were stable and tightly knit have often fractured apart due to the highly mobile nature of today’s working environment. The world is more connected than ever and yet we are more and more isolated from each other. It seems as though if you don’t look out for yourself then no-one else will and to think about, or work for, the common good means you’re likely to find yourself swimming against a pretty strong tide.

So what to do?

Well for a start things like this blog with all its contributors is a great start. We can very deliberately bring the idea of kindness right into the forefront of our thinking and build the word into our everyday conversation.

I may not be able to influence government policy but I can work to embed the idea of kindness into the way I live my life and the way I think about and connect with other people. Taken this way kindness combines naturally together with empathy and humanity to provide a strongly positive platform from which to approach life, the world, other people. If I do this in my life then I know I will have an impact on the world around me, I may not be able to control exactly what that impact is but at least I’ll know that by centring around kindness I will have done everything I can to make it positive.

The world needs kindness more that ever before and I believe we can create that kind, caring, compassionate world one human being at a time starting right here, right now with you, and me.

Please welcome the lovely Chantal! She is the owner founder of Grow My Wellbeing – which is right up my street! Wellbeing through plants, how perfect is that! Chantal and I met online and recently met for the first time – and yes, she is just as wonderful as I thought she would be. Some people just exude calm and this is her to a tee!!

As a busy mum of two boys and a small business owner, it can be very difficult to be kind to myself and to allow myself to have the much needed down time to recharge! There are constant demands, endless to do lists and little to no time for myself.

Rewind to the 2020 Covid pandemic, I remember it being a very stressful time for everyone. I felt total overwhelm at the end of every homeschooling day, no one knew when normal life would resume but I knew that I needed an escape to relax my mind.

Plants and nature have always been part of my life as I grew up in South Africa but it wasn’t until the Covid pandemic that I realised just how therapeutic and relaxing indoor gardening can be.

When popping to the local supermarket every week, I would add a new plant to my trolley. I would take it home and after every homeschooling day I would propagate, water, repot, clean the plant leaves or rearrange my plants. I suddenly realised how therapeutic and mindful the process can be!

Smelling earthy soil, touching gritty perlite, hearing the trickle of water and learning a new skill – it’s an opportunity for my mind to switch off and relax. Indoor gardening very quickly became my form of meditation and relaxation and I would spend a few minutes each day after homeschooling to recharge my mind.

 

Fast forward to today and I’m very lucky to now be working with plants full time, running wellbeing planting workshops, repotting for others and looking after my own plants daily.

I’ve had a lot going on in the last 18 months…I lost my beautiful Mum, we moved from Hampshire to Suffolk and of course the many daily demands that come with being a Mum and business owner. I’m not always great at taking time for myself but indoor gardening has taught me a new skill that I enjoy, so that I can take at least 15 minutes to look after my plants, to look after myself.

We all need to give ourselves permission to be kind to ourselves. Kindness to ourselves can easily be underrated and forgotten about as we navigate our busy lives but I’d like to encourage everyone to take at least 5 minutes each day to enjoy something mindful and relaxing.

Chantal

www.growmywellbeing.co.uk

Instagram – @grow_my_wellbeing

Please welcome back Freyja! A big blog supporter and I’m thrilled about that as I love to read her words. I have to admit this one made me tear up a little! Find out more about Freyja and her services from the links below.

Becoming a mum wasn’t easy and I’m still, and probably will always be learning, failing often, winning occasionally and mostly just coasting along like so many of us out there caring for children – just wanting a safe, loving, happy life for them whilst trying to claw some time out for ourselves and other relationships.

Those very early days, the very first days of the very first week with my very first baby who came earthside, felt like a journey into the depths of Hades’ homeland, Persephone and Khali never far from my shoulders, tapping away at my most raw self, questioning every move…

…crying that breastfeeding still hurt and didn’t feel at all natural, “struggling to ask for help”.

Because hey, even though that’s exactly what was written on my first school report it still remains true to my character these days.

Back then, my mum shepherded me to a local breastfeeding group, like the universe guides us to drive a different route to work today, or to find our favourite coffee shop closed and having to change plans, following the breadcrumbs of this life allowing someone else to take over our living for a short time whilst massive adjustment sinks in, allowing new downloads of insight to reach us through a change in routine.

“Would you like a cup of tea?” Was the very first thing Jan said to me. I could’ve cried, I probably did, in fact, at that simple yet crucial question.

“Yes please”, I whimpered, before I could mutter “decaf?” (I assumed this was the only option whilst breastfeeding, I now know I was wrong)

She was offering me a decaf, a full caf, a coffee, whatever I needed. I felt held and my confidence grew immeasurably knowing I wasn’t alone in this.

Braving a chat with the second-time mum sitting next to me we passed the time of day until we quickly delved into our deeper stories of struggling with these early days of motherhood. She told me of co-sleeping. All I had read about this topic so far implied this was unsafe. How wrong I was.

She gave me solid, safe references to research for myself. Applying the safe sleep 7 from the Lullaby Trust, I started co- sleeping that night… and never looked back. My sleep lengthened, my body became more rested and my mind began to clear a little as a result.

Such a profound impact it had on me I find it hard to stop the most natural feeling action in the world, despite my children getting older, 2 and 5 years. That woman was an angel amongst the underworld, bringing me back to the surface for air and sunlight. It’s the biggest kindness I think I’ve ever experienced and it all came from a simple conversation with another human.

So much of my astrology work comes down to people just needing to share their space with another, their thoughts and feelings and to dig deeper into their own stories of Hades and Heaven, Persephone and Plutos, Outer and Inner self, it’s all there in our natal astrology chart, aching to be unlocked and accessed as we dare to learn about ourselves more deeply.

One of my work mottos is to always be kind and caring, never knowing fully what someone is going through whilst offering a safe space to talk about it and find ways, together, to support ourselves and each other.

Safe co-sleeping resource:
Lullaby Trust, https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

https://www.midheavenmoonrise.com/

Instagram – @freyja_astrology

Please welcome Kelly back to the blog! Kelly is a transformational life coach and is a beautiful soul – I love reading her Instagram posts, she always makes me think and reflect. Go back and find her piece on glimmers, it’s wonderful!

Today, as I write this blog, it is World Kindness Day (Monday 13th November 2023). It is so wonderful to highlight and celebrate kindness in this way but as a Life Coach kindness is actually something that I talk about weekly, if not daily with my clients. We are a culture that can be so incredibly hard on ourselves and so I want to share with you today 5 ways in which you can bring kindness to yourself. The power of being kind to yourself is twofold: It has a positive impact on your own wellbeing and mental health and it then ripples out to those around you, so to be kind to others, you first need to show kindness to yourself. It’s definitely a win win!

1 . Manage your time with care – this is your reminder that you deserve to have breaks throughout your day and through your week as well as taking holidays for full downtime.

2. Talk to yourself as you would to your best friend – Take a moment to stop and listen to how you talk to yourself. So often we talk with judgement and criticism which can hold us in a negative space. Change the narrative to be compassionate to yourself and give back to yourself the kindness and understanding that you so freely offer to others.

3. Stay in your own lane – When you compare yourself to others you quite literally rob yourself of experiencing joy. Comparison takes you away from the present moment, moving you either back to the past or forward to the future of what we ‘should’ or ‘could’ have. The present is all we ever really have and when you stop and look at where you are there is always so much to be grateful for.

4. Journal – Mindfulness and Meditation gives you the opportunity to stop and listen to what the chatter in your mind sounds like. The idea of doing this activity is to simply listen without judgement or expectation. By noting these thoughts in a journal you then move your thoughts out of your mind and creates space and also gives you the chance to reflect back on your thoughts at a later date.

5. Focus on what you CAN control – pain and suffering comes when we focus on the aspects that are out of our control which causes anxiety and panic. When we focus our attention on what we can control it calms our nervous system and reassures it that we are safe.  Remember, if it’s directly related to YOU (your effort, gratitude, preparation, emotions, your focus, your interpretation, where you give your time and attention, how you take care of yourself, when you ask for help, what you consume etc etc) it’s within your control. It may not be easy but it is yours to control.

Give them a go. The only thing that will happen is that you will receive some of that kindness that you show to others and you deserve that.

Kelly x

https://www.kellytabiner.com

Instagram – @kellytabiner_tlc

Please welcome Sophie! This wonderful lady is a personal stylist I have had the absolute pleasure of working with. Never have I felt so good than when Soph takes the time to understand your personality and personal style and makes the clothes you have work for you. Even better – we went shopping together! Do make sure you check out her Facebook group and the services she offers.

As a personal stylist I have seen first hand the power of paying compliments to people. It can have a positive impact on their happiness as well as yours. 

It will boost a person’s self-esteem and confidence. When you acknowledge and appreciate something about them, it reinforces their self-worth. Compliments and kindness have this ripple effect. When you pay someone a genuine compliment, it often inspires them to pass on their kindness and positivity to others. In effect creating this chain reaction. 

Why not give it a try today and spread a little happiness to someone you love or even a stranger! 

When giving compliments to others about their clothes, it’s important to be genuine, respectful, and considerate. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

1. Be specific: Instead of a generic compliment like “nice outfit,” try to be more specific and highlight a particular aspect that you genuinely appreciate. For example, you could say, “I love the colour of your dress, it really suits you” or “Your shoes are so stylish, they complete your look perfectly.”

2. Be sincere: Only give compliments if you truly mean them. People can often sense insincerity, so it’s important to be genuine in your praise.

3. Focus on the person: While their clothes are the subject of the compliment, make sure to also acknowledge the person wearing them. For example, say, “You look amazing in that dress” or “That shirt really brings out your eyes.”

4. Be respectful: When giving a compliment, make sure it is appropriate and respectful. Avoid making comments that may be seen as invasive or overly personal.

5. Consider the context: Keep in mind the situation in which you are giving the compliment. If you’re in a professional setting, focus on more professional aspects of their attire, such as their choice of colours or accessories. In a social setting, you can be more casual and playful with your compliments.

Remember, the goal of giving compliments about someone’s clothes is to uplift and make them feel good. By being genuine, respectful, and considerate, you can brighten someone’s day and build positive connections.

For me it is really important that my clients have a safe space to feel empowered, to share their own style journeys, to have a group of ‘cheerleaders’ to build and inspire them. So I created a facebook group to really encourage peoples growth during the process. This is open to all and is all about spreading kindness and compliments. Feel free to join ‘Find Your Spark’ with Sophie Personal Stylist. And be that person to make their day!

https://www.sophiepersonalstylist.co.uk/

Instagram – @sophiepersonalstylist

I hope you have loved this Glow with the Flow blog – I have LOVED this one! If you have any suggestions for future subjects for this Wellness blog I would really appreciate hearing them!

Until next time (2024!!!) I’m sending you love and light!

Sam xx

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